8 Self-Care Gift Ideas For Your Friend Who’s Having A Hard Time Right Now
It can be hard to know how to help a friend who’s having a hard time with their mental health. Whether they’re in treatment or just figuring out a diagnosis, everyone has low points with their mental health, and it’s only natural to want to support them — to make them feel seen, heard, and appreciated. Fortunately, there are things you can provide that can be very helpful; while of course the best gift is your love and support, a physical object can also remind them of that support when you can’t literally be there.
Gifts can’t solve everything, and they can’t replace help like therapy or medication, but they can help promote self-care, which can be hard to accomplish for someone who isn’t feeling well. These gifts can be concrete reminders to a friend that you’re there for them, and after the low period has passed, they’ll serve as reminders of your friendship. Not everyone wants extra attention when they’re experiencing a low point in their mood, but if your friend would feel better for it, it doesn’t hurt to show them how much you care. And yes, gifts do include picking up the phone, sending a letter, making some tea, or just showing up and taking care of the pile of dishes in the sink. Here are eight gift ideas for a friend who’s having a hard time right now.
1A Thoughtful Card
Use Me Card, $5, Thoughtful Human
It can be tricky to find the right thing to say, but there are card series out there that will do it for you. Thoughtful Human has an entire section of cards particularly tailored to people suffering from mental health issues. Each of the cards is compostable and contains wildflower seeds. If you want, write a series for them to open at future bad times; a friend did this for me when I was having a depressive episode, and I still have a store to open whenever I’m sad.
2A Flight Somewhere Cool
3Something Green And Easy
Succulents, $12, Etsy
Being around greenery has been shown to help mood, so getting somebody who’s struggling a bit of greenery, particularly something low maintenance, can be a good way to boost their environment a bit. Most nurseries will have a collection of succulents, cactuses, and other plants that need relatively little care, but still give off a bit of color.
4A Nostalgic Gift
Hocus Pocus DVD, $5, Amazon
Nostalgia gives us warm and fuzzies for a reason; connecting with positive memories of the past is a proven way to access positive feelings. Tap into that with something you know your pal used to love, even if they don’t really feel like it right now. Don’t pressure them to use it, but they may look at the picture, DVD or old collection of troll dolls and have a smile.
5A Picnic Out In The Park
Gifts Happen Here, Picnic Basket, $30, Etsy
Time out in nature is proven to be a boost for mental health, thought it’s probably a good idea to wait for good weather. As the days get warmer, pack a picnic, get yourself a proper picnicking basket, and have a lunch somewhere with lots of greenery and exposure to sunshine.
7A Super-Stylish Organizer
2018-19 Diary, $35, Liberty Of London
If things feel out of control, it can be helpful to get some order, and somebody who’s struggling a bit under the weight of mental health issues may appreciate something cool to keep their headspace clear. Whether it’s a spices cabinet for their kitchen, a leather diary to keep their appointments, a fancy travel wallet, or a stationery organizer, give ’em something they might appreciate — and something to fill it, like cute pencils or bath salts.
8An Indulgent Blanket
Knit Blanket, $70, Etsy
Sometimes all you want to do with your friend is snuggle up with them under a blanket and watch stupid YouTube videos of cats. Make it happen. Make sure you research if they’re allergic or sensitive to any materials first (you don’t want to get a wool blanket only to discover it makes them itch), then give them an investment piece and turn up with a bucket of popcorn and the newest Maru videos at the ready.